While reading my devotions this morning, I came to Exodus 25 and so on.
In those passages, God instructs Moses and the Israelites on how to build the Tabernacle, The Ark Of The Covenant and a few other things.
Now, God doesn’t just say, “Oh, you know…grab some wood and materials and put something together”.
God, in intricate detail, gives direction for each item he requires them to build…like, down to the exact colour, design and material.
I’m not sure about you, but when I have been both an employee and a boss, and I have received or dished out unclear expectations of what is expected, things go sideways. Information gets misinterpreted, feelings get offended and relationships can get tarnished.
I’ve even experienced this in my marriage and in relationship with my 2 boys…and I’m sure none of you have though ;).
Many times in the past when my husband has said something that I didn’t quite understand and vice vera, it has only led to upset and ‘loud conversations’. I’ve now learned to ask more questions and to think about what I am going to say before I say it so it comes out in such a way that can be communicated effectively.
One of the top stressors in all relationships is poor communication. But the great thing is, crummy communication is very fixable.
These 3 things will help your business and personal communications remain crystal clear and free of ambiguity:
1- We have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. Listen more than you speak.
2- This seems redundant but really, THINK before you speak. Articulate simply and concisely what you expect of the individual and what you are trying to convey.
3- Lead with love. Yes, like God, always have a servant heart and lead with love. That way, even if things go sideways which they inevitable will at some point, at least the underlying intention is from a place of genuine care or concern.
Lastly, as a bonus…when in doubt or if you need further clarification, just ask.