‘No Thank You’


I chose the above photo for this blog becuase when I look at it, I feel at peace. I can feel myself lost in the space, beauty and mystery of the crisp outdoors. It also looks like it could be Whistler…one of my favourite places on earth.

Peace, not happiness, is my most prized and protected state.

Happiness is fleeting, happiness can be bought. Peace is deep, it’s really in there and no one can take it away or give it to you unless you allow it.

I know instantly when I’ve done something I shouldn’t have or agreed to something I really didn’t want to do by the level of peace I have.

Unbalanced, stressed, frazzled, frustrated, overwhelmed, anxious, guilty (or false guilt), pit-in-the-gut, being pulled at multiple ends…

The above indicate when peace has left the party and it’s a yucky feeling when I don’t feel peaceful.

As an introvert I thrive on, actually…I NEED…alone time.

I literally need it to function.

If I don’t get some quiet or at least a few minutes here and there throughout the day to not have to answer questions, a call or a text, I’m done. I’ll power through it but I’m certainly not my best and bitterness can start to creep in.

I love people though I’m not good at conversing for long. I also don’t generally do coffee dates or visit while just sitting there looking at each other chatting. Nope, can’t do it. I also love my husband and kids and want to put energy into them so it’s important to me that I make sure to make smart choices and reserve some brain cells for the end of the day.

I always thought maybe there was something wrong with me but then years ago I started realizing I was a similar person to who this article is talking about…plus or minus a few details:

After not understanding myself for years, it was refreshing to my soul when I started using these three words which helped my existence:

“No thank you”.

Those three words. No excuses, no explanation, no rudeness, no guilt.

It’s amazing how hard it was and how long it took me to learn how to use those words properly, often and when I wanted or needed to. But better late than never.

And so, with September here, back-to-school and life responsibilities pulling at you from all angles and with more people wanting more of our time and energy, paying attention to the level of peace we have in everything we do is a great tool to use toward having a happier, healthier life.




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