‘How To Deal With Network Marketers On Social Media’
Ugh…ANOTHER Random Message?
Side hustle. Side gig. Sharing products they love.
There are many names for it and yep, I’m talking about Network Marketing.
Sometimes referred to as (MLM) multi-level marketing, direct sales or home-based businesses, the above industry involves selling every kind of product imaginable to friends, family members, acquaintances and everyone else under the sun.
From financial services to candles, from handbags to jewelry, food, weight-loss pills, sex toys, books and face cream , there is an MLM for that.
Recently, I’ve received a lot of random messages from both close friends and random people on Facebook asking me to try or buy something. It makes sense that due to COVID-19, people would be considering an additional stream of income. Some may have lost their jobs while others may be looking to connect with new people in this time of craziness. Regardless of the ‘why’, my inbox has been lit up with people telling me how great I would be at their business or asking me to ‘do them a big favour’ and try their stuff.
Do any of these intros sound familiar?:
- “Hey girl! I love your photos, how have you been?…”
(from someone you literally just accepted as a friend on Facebook because you have mutual friends but have never had a single conversation with before)
- “Hi beauty! Hoping you have been well…”
(…’cause same as above)
- “Hey! I know you’re not interested in doing another business but…”
Here are three (of many) scenarios that I’m sure you fit into:
Scenario 1 — You haven’t heard from this person in decades or they are a new friend who randomly added you.
Scenario 2 — They are tight peeps or family members who just signed up for something and are asking for your support or low-radar feedback.
Scenario 3 — They are asking for ‘feedback’ or your ‘opinion’ but you know that’s only part of the script because you’ve been-there-done-that.
I’ve done two network marketing business in my lifetime and will 99.9% never ever, ever do one again. I have my reasons.
Even though at this point I won’t touch the business end of those types of companies again with a 10 foot pole, doesn’t mean I don’t like the products or don’t buy them.
I indeed purchase many items as a customer and I’ll even say that your friend or sister isn’t just blowing smoke up your behind about the quality. Many of them ARE superior to anything purchasable in the store or that anyone could make at home. The products are often made or produced from high-quality ingredients/sources and the people are commonly good people simply wanting to have another source of income (which is what everyone should have) and are willing to hustle.
I still use Neora (formerly called Nerium) skincare, buy Epicure spices, love Pampered Chef kitchenware, Shakeology tastes good, I haven’t bought any ZYIA clothing yet but think it looks great on those who wear it and Young Living essential oils freshen the air in my home on the daily.
When I like something, need it or find it is of high quality, I’ll buy it. If I don’t, I kindly decline the offer.
Having been in the industry before, I know how much it sucks to be ghosted when you are learning how to sell, what to do or what to say.
Sure, looking back there were definitely times I was TOTALLY annoying -a “Monavie Monster”-is what we called it in the first business I was in.
I texted and posted everything with an abundance of emojis, quotes, exclamation marks and shared the same hashtags every other #bossbabe or #mompreneur out there does to show how excited I was about my product and life. Yes, I copied and pasted the message that our upline said to post (but with the name changed) and I even brought my products everywhere…including church or family BBQ’s back in tha’ day. Cringe.
In reality, I did really want to help people and I genuinely thought I had a great product. Often I did but didn’t know how to go about things properly or very well.
Like anyone in sales, I have been rejected, told I was stupid, been yelled at, deleted, unfriended, gossiped about, gotten the brutal end of the stick as far as mean words go and one of my best and closest friends (or so I thought) even repeatedly tore a strip off me in private and on my pages over how awful of a person I was for this or that…and why would I sell to my friends or sell this product to people.
People were mean, they ghosted, they got weird in person but so did I sometimes. I got weird…even though I didn’t know it at the time…as many do when they are starting out in that kind of business (I know you know what I’m talking about).
What I learned and gratefully realize now is that regardless how I view the industry or what someone is up to, I can — at minimum — not be a butthole.
I can choose to get annoyed or I can look at it as a compliment that they took the time to paste to my wall or thought ‘I would be great’ at their business.
Top reasons why you might hate network marketers/the industry:
1- You’ve been burned in the past.
2- A friend who just joined a company is super overly excited and hasn’t yet learned how to ‘share’ in a chill way.
3- You don’t know how to say no properly or you avoid things.
If you hate network marketing or when the distributors send (clearly copy and pasted messages) so much, it could very well be that YOU have an attitude/healthy boundary issue to work on.
Yes, we know they copied and pasted the message they sent us to 500 other Facebook friends. Yes, they’ve probably already asked us to try or buy and they have probably already added us to a group, challenge or invited us to an online party without asking our permission first or if we want to participate.
If it bugs you, choose to let it not bug you.
I mean, if you’ve told them, “No thank you, I’ll let you know if or when I’m interested” and they keep asking or pressuring you…they need to figure their stuff out. But if they are new to their #sidehustle or they are ‘following up with you’, just be kind.
Answer as soon as you see it because you know feel about it already.
Maybe you do want to try it, maybe you don’t. Both are ok…but for simple kindness and decency, don’t let the ‘seen’ notice linger. That’s just rude.
Be the one who at LEAST answers…even if it’s a simple, “No thank you”, without an excuse, reason or other explanation.
And those in the business, especially new in the industry, choose not to take things personally and choose to respect when others say ‘no’…because sometimes “No IS never”…and that’s okay too.
It’s like the picture here, be that one person who smiles back at you when all others turn away or scowl.
Be the bright light in their world when they are continuously getting ignored or getting told their business is a scam or pyramid scheme (because those are, in fact, drastically different than a legit MLM business…do your research first), at least answer them when they are trying to put food on the table for their families, congratulate her when that Mom you know has sacrificed working outside the home to be at home with the kids and is busting her butt at her #sidegig.
Also, try not to be a jerk by making fun of her calling herself an entrepreneur out of the gate. We all know thoughts become words and words become things…and don’t we all want to be prosperous and well? Why not cheer her on instead?
Remember…a simple, “Congrats!, I’m not interested though I wish you well!”, “No thank you”, “I’ll pass” or, “Not at this time” (if you are actually interested) will do.
Just choose to be a kind human.